When
I originally sat down to write this, I was
in a gloomy kind of mood. My day didn't go as {I} planned and I've
had a lot on my mind lately. I've been adding to
this every few days and it's been sitting in my drafts folder for a
few weeks now. I daily re-read it, change or add something and then
step away.
Admittedly,
much of what I've been thinking about has been courtesy of other
bloggers and writers. I love when I read something that speaks so
close to my heart and then I wish I had the wisdom to say it first.
So, the first thing I will write about is
from someone else and how they have
spoken to me through their own blogs and will credit them as
necessary. Other parts of this post are just a
compilation of things that are going on around here.
Number
1:
Make
each moment count. You can not know what tomorrow will bring and so
it's important that we live for this moment. The one we are in now.
The laughter of our children, the family meals, the bike rides, the
ice cream runs, park days, picnics. Allow for spontaneity in your
day... it's good for the heart. I also need to say “yes” more
often. I am doing better than I used to but there's always room for
improvement. It has taken me a long time but
motto is “mountain or molehill”? Is the issue that I am dealing
with serious enough to get worked up about and deal with at a higher
level or is it something that I can just say “it's alright” and
not look back.
My
sweet friend Carlene posted the following challenge in her blog a
few days ago. I have accepted her challenge and I pass it on to you
and hope you'll do the same.
Give
the gift of time.
Time is extremely precious to each of us. There is only so much of it
in a day and our day is full before we even start. For many people it
is often easier to give money than time. Set
aside time for those you care
about. Be deliberate about it. Pencil it in.
Give
the gift of words.
It is so rare that we tell someone why we appreciate them. We sign a
card with our name but neglect to write in our own hand a few lines
about why that person is important to us. We say "I love you"
but forget to tell that person what it is about them that we love.
Write it down. The words are precious and one day may be even more
so.
Give
the gift of presence. Sometimes
all another person needs is for you to be there. Not to say anything,
just be
present.
Human contact and connection. Relationship and link.
Take
the time, be deliberate. All you have is today...and you never get it
back.
Number
2:
For
quite a while now, we've been talking about taking a second trip down
to Alabama. Four years ago, I promised myself that if we ever went
again, it would be on a plane. Somehow, my family has managed to
convince me that we should drive there. That means 36-40 hours in
the motor home with all of us. Last time, it wasn't too bad but now
all the kids are bigger, plus we have one more. Doug's employer has
approved his vacation time and we are going to be leaving in four
weeks! Now you may ask “why Alabama?” That's a fair
question indeed. Why would we want to drive to {practically} the
south easternmost corner of the US? For many years now (maybe 8?),
I've been part of an online group of moms. I am the only one in
Canada though. Through forum posts, emails, texts, and Facebook, a
much deeper level of friendship has been created with these women.
So somehow in 2004, I got it in my head that I wanted to meet a few
of these people. And Alabama seemed like a good place to start. I
met five of these ladies down south and then a couple more in Ohio on
our way home. It's interesting how we didn't have to ever meet face
to face prior to our trip and yet it was as if we lived next door,
not thousands of miles apart. It was a trip of a lifetime and the
kids still talk about all the things we did. We are beginning to get
excited about this “second chance” trip and I can't wait to see
my long distance friends again!
Number
3:
Sarah
has slept through the night for 12 consecutive nights now. After
three years and 11 months, she has finally figured it out. I've
always been quick to respond to my kids when they cry and CIO methods
have never really worked for me. I'm sure there are some who
disagree with how I did things and that I should have forced the
issue earlier on. This way though, there was no fight. We never
had to listen to her cry at her door and her trust in us never
wavered. If she cried (for whatever reason), someone came to help
her. Usually that meant spending the rest of the night between us
and, for the time, it worked. And now, she's sleeping completely
through and it's working as well.
Number
4:
Our
school year is slowly winding down. It is hard to keep the kids
inside when the sun is up so early and the days are long and warm.
We are spending a lot of time with friends, biking around, visiting
parks and doing stuff together. I am really proud of my kids and if
I had to give them marks for their work, they would all be straight A
students! I do have a few new ideas up my sleeve for next fall but
we'll let that rest and think about it in a few months.
Number 5:
I have a dream to be a runner. Not necessarily to race but to have the endurance to run/jog a full 5 km. From my house, I have mapped out a half way point of 2.5 km (5 km round trip) and that seems like a long ways yet. Maybe now that I've put it out there, I'll be held accountable... hmmm. And I suppose there's no time like the present. So maybe this morning, I'll strap Sarah into the stroller, grab the other kids and head out.
Steph, what I love about your writing is that it is so real. You tell it like it is, share your struggles as well as your joys. It allows your readers to really get to know you.
ReplyDeleteI have no doubt you will run 5K. I can't wait to see the post!
And, ummm, Sam is 5 and he still comes to our room in the middle of the night! He no longer crawls into our bed (tho he did until he was 4!), but he has a spot on the floor next to the bed and asks to hold my hand a few moments before falling back to sleep.